emotionally fit


Emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃ(ə)nəli/ – in a way that relates to a person’s emotions

Fit /fɪt/ – to be in harmony

Tribe /trʌɪb/ – a group of persons having a common character, occupation, or interest 



Do you want

to feel motivated, refreshed, empowered, resilient and free? 

How would this experience be different if you were able to get off that emotional roller-coaster you are on and felt more emotionally balanced and (god forbid ..) HAPPIER?

What if you could look to your future, free of fear, and see unlimited opportunities and possibilities? Where could this journey take you if you were able to feel supported while you released the shock, grief and anger that you are carrying?

The Emotionally Fit Tribe is:

A supportive space for teenagers and their parents who are transitioning through a time of upheaval, uncertainty and adjustment resulting from changes to the family structure and relationships – ie; separation, divorce, the introduction of new family members or the death of a parent. The ‘EF Tribe’ aims to promote openness, honesty and connection in these often delicate and unique situations


Marriages and Civil Unions Registered in New Zealand in 2018


Couples were granted a divorce in New Zealand in 2018


Children under 17 years of age had parents granted a divorce


Had the lowest divorce rates in New Zealand since 1980

Changes to the family structure include: divorce, separation, the introduction of a new person into the family or the death of a parent

What's been happening for you?

As the parent you have been trying to read all the books about separation and divorce and it has just left you feeling overwhelmed, even more confused and physically as well as emotionally exhausted.

You are trying your best to do right by everyone, you are putting everyone in the family first, yourself last and you are still left feeling helpless and like a ‘failure’.

What if I told you that you are not? Even with these feelings of guilt, regret, frustration, uncertainty you are doing a bloody great job in an extremely stress inducing situation.

I can hear you responding  – “Thanks, but I don’t feel like I am doing a good job when I see my teen struggling with anger,  engaging in un-desirable relationships, shutting down, their grades are slipping and worst of all they look at me like they hate me!” 

All that means is that you are human and you just need a bit of help to figure this situation out.

And nine times out of ten, they just need the opportunity to work through their emotions, thoughts, feelings in a supportive environment that is not connected to the immediate family.

Let me be that person for you and your teen. 

As the teenager you have been trying to ignore everything that has been going on, you’re not the one that wanted this but somehow you are getting dragged into all the ‘drama’ and you just can’t be bothered with it and want it to stop.

You are trying your best not to pick sides, but it can be really hard when you’re not stupid and you can see how each parent is behaving. You’re also worried about having to live between two houses and don’t know how this will affect your time to hang out with your mates.

What if I told you that everything will work out and you will get through this? Even though your parents are struggling to keep their relationship – it doesn’t mean any of their relationships with you have to change or that they care about you any less.

If I were to read your mind it would go something like this – “Yea right, if they really cared about me then they wouldn’t be doing this, they would listen to me and they wouldn’t be turning my world up-side down. I just don’t get how this is going to get any better, I’m so angry and they seem to hate each other so much.”

All of these thoughts and feelings are completely normal and maybe you just need some support and a safe space to express them.

And maybe the way that your parents are behaving is just because they are hurting. When they first got together and then had you – they never could have imagined that this is how it would turn out…

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Going Forward

Let’s use my first-hand experience of helping numerous clients resolve their challenges during changes to their family structure. We will use a multi-layered approach by  combining traditional talk therapy with scientifically proven stress management and emotional fitness techniques to help you both gracefully navigate through this challenging time. 

We will work one on one, online, and there will be extra resources available to support you through your journey as well as the opportunity to connect with others going through a similar experience. 

Let’s agree on the goal: To provide a smoother transition through unfamiliar territory while gaining valuable tools, techniques and increasing resilience so everyone can thrive as their best selves.


Parents should not be fooled by the game face that their teens put on everyday.”

Dr. Joseph Nowinski 

– Author of ‘The divorced child’

I was going through a time of massive personal change and grief, and at times felt so overwhelmed I wasn't sure how I was going to cope. Over a period of 2 months, during the worst of it, I had one session a week with Lynska. Now a couple of months on and everybody I know has noticed the difference in me. I am now so happy, I have greeted the changes with joy and ease and my life is great!"​


I just want to thank you for being such a gift in my life... every time I work with you I have to go further down the rabbit hole... I have got really present not just to the loss but also the anger I have been holding on to from each relationship."


Let's get you Emotionally Fit with:

Techniques that are non-intrusive & Easy to use

Techniques that reduce cortisol levels in the body

Techniques that don't require you to rehash every little detail



$ 699
  • 6 x 1:1 personalised sessions
  • 1 hour weekly sessions
  • Performed via



$ 899
  • 6 x 1:1 personalised sessions
  • 1 hour weekly sessions
  • Performed via

Let's start today

The best way to start supporting you and your teen through this challenging time is to book a half hour online “Introduction Call” with me to talk about how we can work together to make this the best possible resilience building experience for all involved

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